Surviving Great Days

August 1983
The cool air stirred and the long rays of morning sun greeted the three of us as we walked the long driveway. It took everything in me not to start crying.

“Today’s a great day!” I said, with too much pep in my voice. I wanted to make sure I told him all he needed to know for this special day. “You’ll meet new people and it’ll be terrific!”

We continued to walk, hand in hand as we always had in the past. He stopped, looked up into my eyes, and with a sober voice, “It is a great day, right, Mommy?”

Little Sis skipped along singing Great day, It’s gonna be a great day … She had no idea the somberness of this moment. But how could she? How could she know what it felt like to lose a baby into an Unknown World?

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Missing Dad on Father’s Day

To celebrate Father’s Day, here’s a post I shared earlier. I’d love to hear stories from you about the relationship you have (or had) with yours. I pray it was as loving as mine was. Love you, Dad. I miss you.

Even though my family of origin was pretty dysfunctional, one of my favorite pastimes is to remember stories about my dad and how he honored my feelings and held them close to his heart.

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God’s Best During Your Worst

Please enjoy my latest interview with Scott McCausey from Christian Devotions Speak Up. as I share how God gives is His best during our worst.

Every day we have is a gift from God. I pray you will be blessed by what you hear.

We’ve Been Warned

We should not be afraid or surprised at the current events. People hating each other, calling those who used to be good friends terrible names. Everywhere we look we see abuse. First, it was politicians, then Hollywood businessmen and entertainers. The self-importance that once held them apart has now turned to ugliness. And today I read a prominent Christian college president was fired due to his handling of a sex abuse allegation.

It’s not pretty out there. But we shouldn’t be surprised. We’ve been warned.

Make sure you’re prepared for the fallout.

Quieting the Voice of Insignificance

If you’re anything like me you occasionally battle the feeling of insignificance. You watch as others excel with ease in projects you sometimes struggle. Maybe it’s parenting. Your best friend’s kids seem sweeter and kinder than yours do. And how can it be that every time you go over for coffee her house is spotless?

It can be enough to send you to bed and pull the covers over your head. But know your significance counts in ways you may never know. Continue reading

We Must Take Heed

Coal mining in the 20th century many times included taking a caged canary into the depths underground. These birds were sensitive to carbon monoxide, a potentially deadly gas devoid of color, taste or smell, that often formed in the mines. A dead bird in the cage meant the miners needed to be alert–deadly conditions were at hand.

Watching the political and social banter over the past weeks has been telling. Pointing fingers and one-upping one another takes front and center stage while pressing issues such as safety of our children and the security of our future have been left untouched.

Hearts are breaking while this happens. Children watch and learn that the person who shouts the loudest is right–never mind seeking Truth.

I think the Canary has stopped singing. Please, let’s heed the issues at hand that are killing us. We still have time.

Judges, 21:25, “In those days Israel had no king; everyone did as they saw fit.”

Bruce Brady: Writing Lessons from Cancer

For any of you who knew Bruce Brady, there’s a cloud of sadness over those dealing with his death. His encouragement was without end. And his wisdom and insight were always delivered with love and compassion. Below is a post he wrote for The Write Conversation in 2016. In remembrance of him, Edie Melson, co-director of Blue Ridge Mountain Christian Writers Conference shared this post again.

Thanks, Bruce. Your life made a difference.

https://www.blueridgeconference.com/writing-lessons-cancer/