Depression and the Holidays
Holidays. They’re supposed to be a time of celebration and gaiety. But if you’re in the clutches of depression, the Christmas season can seem like a platter of darkness served to you instead of turkey or ham.
If your life has been touched by the ramifications of a medical trial, depression can be magnified. I struggled with all that surrounds healing from a brain tumor. Maybe someone you love had a stroke and is learning to walk again. Or maybe you’ve lost someone–a spouse, friend or even child–to a medical issue. How can you celebrate when all you feel is anger, resentment or even worse–that void? You come across well-wishers with their cast-off platitudes:
“God won’t give you anything you can’t handle.”
“That which doesn’t kill us will make us stronger.”
“You’re better off than you think.”
Really? Give me a break!
These next few days may be strewn with land mines of depression. Walk through this season cautiously. With the proper planning and a support team around you, you can make it through.
Tell your closest friends you need their strength to get through the next few days. Have them check on you a bit more than usual.
Write words that have power on note cards and put the cards in your pocket. When you find yourself slipping into a funk, pull out the card and give yourself a lifeline.
Holidays come, but they also go. Healing will continue. Pain will lessen. Live in the moment as much as you can, because really … that’s all we ever have.
The Conversation
They gave you just what they had, what they knew. Don’t blame them for that…you can’t give what you don’t have….another canned platitude perhaps.
Thanks, Gretiana, for leaving a comment. To me, any canned platitude that is supposed to lift my spirits is a waste of breath. I’d rather sit in silence if I know the person I’m with really cares. Give me transparency anytime.
BTW, I visited your site and love it! You speak words of a true survivor. Blessings to you. I’ll follow your blog for sure!
Thank you so much for reading and appreciating it.