A Book Review: The Art of Hard Conversations

Lori Roeleveld truly really hit a home run with The Art of Hard Conversations.

Statements like Truth is like tofu … it has its own nature and consistency, yet still takes on the flavor of the other elements with which it’s served. are peppered throughout Lori Roeleveld‘s latest book, “The Art of Hard Conversations.” In it, she shows us how to prepare for those hard conversations that need to be shared. She explains how to embrace the power of a question and how to approach possibly devastating situations with Christ-infused strength.

Chapter breakdowns are in-depth, easy to follow and incredibly respectful. You’ll learn how to gently pull a topic apart a to see all the intricate pieces so you can understand where your listener is coming from. No matter what your personality, the stories she shares will hit your heart.

And her use of scripture is spot-on! Get your highlighter ready. You’ll want to read and re-read this book.

Handling Your Time in a Valley

We all hit valleys once in a while. The worst part about being in a valley is if you have to deal with it on your own.

Like I said … the worst.

Check out Brandon J. Adams’ latest post on 5 Encouragements for the Long Road to Finding “Your People”.

Whatever stage of life you’re in, know that “your people ” are out there, ready to be found.

Thanks again, Brandon. Your insight really hits the mark.

 

The Focus is Off

I’ve always enjoyed the story of the Prodigal Son. But its focus challenged me. My heart went to the son who stayed behind … the one who could not forgive his younger brother.  Brandon Adams writes about that in his latest blog, It’s Never Too Late to Come Back.

It’s important to remember that God loves us all … and offers forgiveness to all who seek it.

A new morning awaits … for all of us.

God Calls Shenanigans

Last Thursday was supposed to be the season where families got together; celebrated their special closeness.

How’d you do?

Know it wasn’t an accident you were placed with your family. God’s plan put you there. With that in mind, let me ask again. How’d you do?

Did you hang on to your old mantra:

“I don’t want to be hurt anymore.”  “You don’t know what they did to me.”  “We have nothing in common; it’s best we just keep our distance and live our lives apart.”

Sorry, I think God calls shenanigans.

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Missing Dad on Father’s Day

To celebrate Father’s Day, here’s a post I shared earlier. I’d love to hear stories from you about the relationship you have (or had) with yours. I pray it was as loving as mine was. Love you, Dad. I miss you.

Even though my family of origin was pretty dysfunctional, one of my favorite pastimes is to remember stories about my dad and how he honored my feelings and held them close to his heart.

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We’ve Been Warned

We should not be afraid or surprised at the current events. People hating each other, calling those who used to be good friends terrible names. Everywhere we look we see abuse. First, it was politicians, then Hollywood businessmen and entertainers. The self-importance that once held them apart has now turned to ugliness. And today I read a prominent Christian college president was fired due to his handling of a sex abuse allegation.

It’s not pretty out there. But we shouldn’t be surprised. We’ve been warned.

Make sure you’re prepared for the fallout.

It’s Never Too Late

As we usher in the new year, watch the movies, eat lots of goodies and kiss your sweetie at midnight. But don’t forget the Creator.

Happy New Year!

I Learn So Much From Lori Roeleveld

While my heart broke and I wept for the lost in Texas, Lori Roeleveld’s latest post brought peace and clarity to my soul. Her pin-pointed focus always rings true for me. I love this woman as a mentor, guide, and inspiration. But she is also a dear friend.

Please, don’t wait another moment. Read her thoughts on the terror left behind from an evil act in Texas.

https://loriroeleveld.com/blog/on-the-day-they-shoot-me-down-in-my-pew/

Brandon Shares Great Wisdom

If you don’t follow Brandon J. Adams, you should. His point of view brings a sigh of relief whenever I get fearful that the generation following this one might not have the answers to get us through.

Clearly, Brandon’s insight proves that God’s folks are alive and well, lined up for years to come.

Check out his latest post, How to Let Go of Our Christian Heroes. Let him know your thoughts. I’m sure he’d love to hear them. He’s that kind of guy.

Feeling Less Than

These are trying times. Whatever we say tends to make us feel “less than”. It doesn’t matter what side of a topic you hold. It seems folks have stopped discussing and have instead, turned to arguing. It breaks my heart.

And if it breaks my heart, how is this affecting the Holder of the Universe?

Check out Lori Roeleveld’s latest post Washing Feet in an Angry World. Let’s do what we can do … and that means starting with me.

After looking at myself first–and hardest–like Lori says, I feel a bit lighter. I might not be able to change the world. In all reality, I can’t even change you. But I can change my attitude. I can choose to see good instead of pouring over the not-so-good.

When I focus on Me and what I can do, my feelings of Less-Than leave. When I focus on me, I have more power than I realized before. It’s a good power. A calming power.

Give it a try. You’ll be surprised how good it feels.