Why is Facebook so popular? I must say, I’m a bit distracted by it all. I get to speak to family and friends, see pictures of them and their children, and continue our bonds of friendship over the miles. I find myself continually checking to see how statuses change. But the other day I had a troubling experience concerning Facebook. I saw a person from high school out there … one of the “popular girls” … and I was so excited to connect with her. I was ready “Friend” her; to tell her all about what I’ve been doing over the years since our paths crossed ever-so-slightly during high school. I was so excited to be able to share all my high points of my life … how I’d found meaning beyond the hallways of high school.
As I began writing a note to her on the “Add a Friend” link I found myself acting desperate; just like one of the Unpopular kids trying to get to the Popular kids’ lunch table. I heard my tone say, “I’m somebody now. Do you want to like me now?”
Pathetic; just pathetic.
I stopped writing, sat back in my chair, and cancelled my friending request to her. What was I doing? I am very happy where I am in life. I have more peace now than I did in high school, so why was I trying to impress one of the cool kids all these years later? Here I was, trying to prove something to someone who probably hasn’t thought of me in over 30 years. And then the thoughts weren’t that deep. It isn’t that this girl from high school was a mean girl … we just didn’t travel in the same circles.
So again let me ask, “Why is Facebook so popular?” For me, I need to make sure to use it for a specific job… keeping up with people I love. If I use if for anything other than that I open myself up to problems and heartache. I don’t concern myself with the Popular table at lunchtime. I sit where it feels best to me … with people who love me for who I am.
I like this much better.